Busy Mom's Tip #3: What Is Really Important?

written by

Bethany Fisher

posted on

August 22, 2025

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  • The average person spends over $1,000 per year on subscription services. Think Netflix, Amazon, Instacart.
  • Each year, Americans spend over $1 trillion on travel, which averages to about $3,000 per person per year.
  • Every year, the USA wastes 38.5 million tons of food annually (that’s one of the most conservative statistics out there).
  • Since the 1950s, the mineral and phytonutrient content of our food has decreased by 20-50%.
  • Most Americans consume 50% of their calories from ultra-processed foods.
  • The US spent $4.9 trillion in 2023 on healthcare, which averages $14,570 per person. Of that $4.9 trillion, 90% goes toward treating chronic and mental conditions.
  • Compared to the $4.9 trillion spent on healthcare, USA citizens spend just $1.7 T on food, which averages to $5,054 per person.
  • Currently, about 6 out of 10 adults struggle with chronic disease, and 23% of American teens are diabetic.

Perhaps these disturbing statistics reveal something about the priorities of most modern Americans. Could it be the societal norm of expecting and budgeting around cheap food compromises our own health and that of our loved ones?

At Whiffletree, we believe food is medicine. What we eat is who we are, which I think the above statistics point out. And I get it - I am a single gal living on a single person income in a very expensive place to live. It’s not always easy to make ends meet, especially if you have little mouths to feed.

This week, Liz Straight shares some tips and ideas that might help you as you figure out how to make your budget include nourishing food. These are ways she and Jesse have implemented these practices into their lives in order to afford high quality food, which allows them to give their kids the very best they can and provide them with a healthy foundation for living life.

No, it’s not always easy. But is it worth it?

They say yes.

Tip #3: How to budget around what is most important to you

“When deciding what you will spend food money on, start out by deciding what you care most about getting top quality without compromise. For our family, it is meat, eggs, raw milk, fats, and oils that we don’t compromise quality on. We put those items into our budget first.

Then we decide what items we are okay with compromising quality in order to make our food budget work. An example for us would be some fruits and veggies. We’ll sometimes try to compromise and pick local apples that are low spray rather than buying organic apples that are shipped from across the country. I’ll also go off the ‘dirty dozen’ guidelines (a guideline you can find online for fruits and veggies in the grocery store that are heavily sprayed vs ones that aren’t) for when I am purchasing produce from a grocery store. Or things like a condiment that has corn syrup I won’t get, but in a pinch I will buy one that has healthier fats or cane sugar in it.

For money, there will always be a limit to what you can spend.  But if you look at your actual budget, there may be more available for quality food than you think.  Are there any entertainment subscriptions you can cut?  Do you eat out regularly and could you start to make one more meal per week at home?  Things like that.

Sometimes, sacrifice and practicality are necessary. Some examples for us are:

  • I don’t often buy premade items. For instance I will get whole dates, nuts, or chocolate chips, but I won’t purchase Larabars. Either we eat the whole food items as they are or I make them into a bar myself. 
  • Try to save on clothing wherever possible, making use of secondhand, consignment, and discount shopping.
  • Travel budgets and entertainment services aren’t big parts of our budget.
  • Even our home has gone through slow renovation rather than being done all at once so our budget could be spread across things that mattered.
  • Etc.

If your time allows, doing things to grow your own food is also helpful. Maybe you can garden or grow herbs on your patio, or raise a few backyard chickens. There is an unexpected satisfaction in eating food you have raised yourself, and is also great for kids to be able to learn alongside you.

Eating quality food as a priority isn’t always easy. Modern life isn’t set up to make healthy eating the path of least resistance, but with practice and energy and time up front, it becomes a routine method of life that doesn’t dominate you. 

While like every family we’ll have the flu once in a while or colds come through, we thankfully don’t deal with chronic health issues. The kids also know the basics of cooking and gardening and caring for animals which may help them someday in their own adult lives. And the blessing of being able to give our kids a good foundation so they have strength and health to navigate life with is a privilege.”

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If you didn't hear, Wendell Berry passed away yesterday. I am indebted to Berry. In 2005 I had just graduated from college, and Liz and I were just married. And I was floundering a bit. Eager to set to some good work and to make a good life, but at a loss as to how to go about that. In terms of work and career I was all over the place--maybe med school, maybe seminary, maybe start a music festival, maybe go into audio documentary, maybe.... A friend of Liz and mine had recently spent a week visiting Berry, and sent us his short novel, A World Lost. We read it and loved it! It bit me. I was hooked. I read all of Berry's fiction that year. I read any chance I got--I remember reading at red lights. It was his vision of the good life and his critique of our modern life that captured my imagination. A big point of his is that fundamentally humans are happiest when their lives are as integrated as possible. I will get into what that means. But in contradiction to that, modern society has us "dis-integrated"--people don't live where they grew up, families don't live near each other, home and work are disconnected, children's lives and adult lives are disconnected, people are disconnected from food production, the work of the home is outsourced--no one makes anything at their home--it is only a place of ready-made consumption. Modernity is about specialization and outsourcing; and therefore dis-integration. And this has been an effective way to generate cash-wealth. If we all max our earning potential, and outsource all the work we can pay someone else to do more cheaply, then our bank accounts are ahead. So while this modern life has generated lots of cash-wealth, it has not done such a good job of making people happy. And Berry's point is that human lives are most full and most happy when they have this level of humane integratedness, rootedness, connection, localized knowledge, intimacy with your people and place; and when all the parts of your life are all intermeshed as possible--children, work, religion, home-making, neighbors, extended family, and your 3rd grade teacher are all mixed up and jumbled up in inter-crossing lines of familiarity and connection. This made a lot of sense to me, and caught me by the heart. I wanted this life of intimacy, connection, rootedness, care, friendship. That was step 1. Step 2 was coming across Joel Salatin's writings. Berry was the poet that wooed me to this idea of a good life. Salatin was the technician who laid out a compelling and reasonable plan for a novice like me to get into regenerative farming, do some good by healing land/animals/people, and actually provide a living for my family. So after doing a bunch of reading, and befriending farmers like Salatin, I decided I want to write a thank you letter to Berry. In my 1st letter I thank Berry for all his writings and let him know how he has benefited me, and let him know that I am making moves to get into regenerative farming. He sends back the below letter which is very kind and all, but essentially tells me to not go into full time farming. Ha! I remember reading that aghast, and a little angry--"this Berry guy thinks I am a fool and naive and have no idea what I am getting into--well, I will show him!" was about what I was thinking. So I take a deep breath, cool off a bit and write him back--pushing back and saying all the ways I have done my due diligence, and how I have a reasonable plan (and essentially, that "I am not a fool and naive, and I am a big grown up boy, thank you very much!"--Ha!). He then sends me back his very Berry-esque letter, which says essentially--"hey if you really want to get into farming, my advice isn't going to stop you." So Berry. Well, fast forward about 3 years from that letter. Liz and I had moved from Charlottesville back to my hometown of Warrenton (a very Berry-inspired move to be back in my hometown and near my family), and we had started Whiffletree Farm. I was working part time doing handyman work, while getting the farm business going. Berry had just published a new book of poetry and was making a reading stop at UVA. A friend involved with his stop at UVA invited us to a VIP reading. We went, and it was great. And then afterwards, there was some time where I could go up and speak to Berry. I went up and reminded him who I was and about our exchange of letters. And I told him how I was executing on this plan to ease into full time regenerative farming, with the handyman business, without going into debt, and how the farm business was growing, and that pretty soon we would be able to go full time. To this day, I can remember his reaction. It is a highlight of my life. He pumped his arm and said emphatically, "YES! This is how you have to do it!" It was my hero slapping me on the back. Major tingles. I was flying so high. My life could have gone in a lot of directions--some not so great. I was a pretty confused young man, and looking for direction. Liz and I are so grateful to Berry for his influence on us--his challenge to resist the current of modernity that prioritizes cash-wealth, and instead to go after an integrated life that prioritizes rootedness, connection, stability, sacrifice, friendship, care. It is still a daily challenge, but worth the fight! God bless Wendell Berry. Jesse Straight